Polishing Your Spouse

What do you own that you take really good care of?  Scrapbooking stuff, furniture, your car, your makeup, cellphone, etc. Often we hear about men who wax their cars or wipe down their firearms daily etc.

What is marriage?  MarriamWebster says: “The state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife.”  United is an interesting word.  MarriamWebster defines it this way: “made one : combined”.

So we can definitively say that marriage is “The state of being made one.”

Most people are willing to take good care of the things they really care about.  How much more so do we baby or pamper ourselves?  If your spouse is a part of you then should you not polish him now and then?

Most marriage relationships that I’ve observed are rooted in competition each fighting to prove their point is more valid than the others or that the other person needs to give more in one way or another.

I have met couples who get along well and seem to help each other.  But, when have you seen a couple who are one?  Who give all that they have and are to each other and do everything they can to build each other up?  A truly united couple would look like two wholes united.  It would be difficult to know when one begins and the other ends.  That does not mean they both have to like the same things and do the same things all the time.  My husband always says, “I don’t want to be married to myself!”  It’s great that we each bring different qualities and talents to our unit that way we have a lot more to work with and to talk about and to enjoy with each other.  But, we have never run out of things to talk about, we spend 24/7 together and still feel like it’s not enough time.  A relationship like this doesn’t just happen, you have to create it piece by piece.  Every day as you build each other up, in genuine ways and work towards your common goals always looking to help the other as well as yourself to improve.

So, the next time you think about making a cutting remark to your spouse, stop and remember that he is a part of you and the only way to build yourself up is to build him up.  When people say you have a nice car or a beautiful home you take great pride in those things.  How much more you should meticulously take care of your spouse.  Then when he does well you can take great pride knowing that a part of you is good.


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